Conflict Marriages And Their Impact On ChildrenA premarital counselor is a teacher, an advisor and a therapist, all in one. In other words, if self-value depends on the negotiation, you can't make true behavior requests - if your "request" isn't met, you will retaliate with some sort of emotional punishment: "If you don't do this, I'll make you feel guilty (or worse)." Merely teaching the couple to phrase things differently reinforces the false and damaging notion that your partner is responsible for your core value and vice versa.
If two people who feel unhappy in their relationship try to find out where the trouble lies, face the human reality that it is inevitable to make mistakes, and take responsibility for the unhappiness, whether it be caused by infidelity or a general feeling of dissatisfaction, they have a good chance to work things out.
Partners come into couples or marriage counseling with a variety of issues such as communication, sexual & intimacy concerns, fighting and anger problems, identity and role conflict, dependence vs. independence, jealousy, parenting, infidelity, money and finances.
The excitement of sex, the "erotic haze", the orgasm, the identification with "perfect" men in internet pornography - lifts the man out of depression and the state of shame into a state of powerfulness, eradicating unwanted feelings as surely as a few martinis do for the alcoholic.
Relationship and family problems; sexual difficulties; divorce support for adults and children; symptoms of anxiety and depression; problems with academic and occupational performance, career advancement, and work-related stress; gay and lesbian issues; helping individuals establish and maintain their recovery from substance abuse; attention deficit disorder; anger management; and adjustment difficulties of childhood and adolescence.
I currently specialize in the following: Marital Therapy with highly distressed couples, with couples that have severe and persistent problems, with couples struggling through the impact of an affair and with couples facing the prospect of divorce; and Family Therapy with adults and their parents and with adult siblings.
Other than those marriage and family therapists licensed under the special provisions established in law for those already practicing when the new law came into effect, each New York licensed practitioner has a master's or higher degree in marriage and family therapy or its equivalent, with required coursework in marriage and family theory and practice, assessment, ethical practice and a supervised internship, has passed a State-approved exam, and has completed at least 1,500 client contact hours of clinical experience under supervision of a qualified, licensed mental health professional.
Anthony Freire, LMHC, NCC, CCMHC, Kelley Hershman, LMHC, Kate Engstrom, LCSW, and the team at the Soho Center For Mental Health Counseling & Clinical Supervision in Greenwich Village of New York City provide couples counseling services for all types of couples who want to improve their communication skills and work on their relationship together.
People come to therapy for disturbed mood (such as anger, anxiety, panic and depression), family conflicts, behavioral disturbances and acting out unhealthy behaviors, relationship conflicts, social problems, career issues, sex issues, anger management and more.
In an atmosphere geared to safety, self-reflection, and dialogue, the therapist and the couple engage in a process which seeks to clarify couples therapy the needs and expectations of the individuals, so that the relationship can be built on a true sense of empathy and partnership.